BDSMDate. com: Millions of femdoms and submissives frequent this international platform. You can take advantage of nifty features like live video chat, video introductions, and join different groups organized by fetish. MeetDominatrix. com: this site is smaller and has fewer features than BDSMDate, but membership is free. The focus is more on connecting and meeting up IRL rather than interacting online, which might be a plus for you. It’s also based in the United States (whereas BDSMDate. com is international). Remember to upload high quality images! Also, try to have a clear idea of what you’re looking for and be able to articulate it to your matches. For example, are you looking for a keyholder or a sadist? Relationship or hookup? Are you a playful sub or a romantic sub?
The connections you make on fetish social media platforms are invaluable if you’re interested in getting involved in the local fetish community and learning which businesses are owned by fellow kinksters.
If you do meet someone, keep in mind that most people are just dabbling or looking for one-night stands at these events. If that sounds good to you, game on!
Cruising for dates at munch events is frowned upon by the fetish community. Think of munches as networking events. To find local munch events, check your favorite BDSM or social media outlet. Most munches are open to everyone so you don’t need a special invitation (some fetish parties and sex dungeons, on the other hand, do require invitations).
If you’re looking for in-person classes, check with local sex toy shops, dungeons, and sex clubs. Or, you can do a google search for “BDSM classes” or “BDSM workshops” in your city. There’s no shortage of online educational options if that’s more your speed.
The BDSM community bases everything (including your level of acceptance) on the reputation you build for yourself.
Remember to be safe if you use these platforms. You can do things like: Let a friend know you’re meeting up with someone you met online and ask them to check in with you via text every few hours. Always meet in public first so you can get a feel for the person. If something feels off, trust your gut and make a quick exit. [8] X Trustworthy Source Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network Largest anti-sexual assault organization in the US providing support and advocacy for survivors Go to source
Say something like, “I’ve always been interested in trying out some light kink in the bedroom. How would you feel about exploring a few things with me? Please don’t feel pressured—I’m only into it if you are. " You can also go to events together, check out the workshops, and immerse yourselves in a full educational experience–as a couple.
Professional doms can be pretty expensive, but they offer many benefits, too—convenience, consent, on-site equipment, and her expertise.
You probably won’t meet a girlfriend at a BDSM con, but you never know!
