For example, you might love that you’re compassionate and great at sports, or you might be proud that you’re a little weird and fiercely loyal to your friends.
If you start to think something negative, switch your focus and do something different like listening to music, going for a run, or focusing on a different subject. It might help to write down the negative thoughts you have. Then, read through them to find where they’re coming from. Try to stop the source of these harmful thoughts.
You might mentally tell yourself, “I messed up on that test, but now I know what to study for next time. "
This might take a little practice, but you’ll become comfortable with humor over time.
For example, if you love the way your favorite sweater makes you feel, wear it with a pair of jeans. If you’ve been saving up to buy a new top, get it and wear it to school! Play up what you like about your appearance. For example, if you love your green eyes, wear purple or green clothes that really make your eyes pop. Don’t forget that you should be comfortable in your outfit, especially since you have to make it through the whole school day. Skip uncomfortable shoes or clothes that don’t fit quite right.
If you find it hard to ask questions, set yourself a goal of asking 1 question in class every day. You may find that the more often you do this, the easier it becomes. Still afraid of asking questions in front of the class? Stick around after class or get there early to ask the teacher your question.
Trying to socialize more? Say hi to someone new or ask someone how they’re doing. Work your way up to longer conversations once you get to know the person and feel more comfortable.
If you know you’ll be missing class, ask a classmate to take notes for you or get your assignments.
For example, if you like German language class, join your school’s German club. This gives you social opportunities to interact with schoolmates in a more casual setting. You might be scared to try out for a team you really want to join. Go to tryouts feeling confident in your abilities to play and to improve. Remember that you don’t have to be an expert to get on the team, you just have to be willing to improve.
For example, you could mentally remind yourself, “I’ve studied hard and I know this material,” or, “Everyone’s probably feeling nervous about this quiz, so I’m not alone. "
